On Thursday, Loretta Traynor and her only surviving son Sam addressed a small group of family and close friends at an Oshawa, Ont. Church. She confessed about their grief and shared happy memories of their four murdered family members who earlier this month were shot and killed inside their home. On Thursday morning, Loretta Traynor sat in a wheelchair in front of the four coffins inside St. Mary of the People Parish during the funeral service for her husband Chris, and three of their children. She addressed the “dark places” she has found herself in since they were killed nearly two weeks ago and also talked about the joy her family brought to her life.
During her tearful eulogy, she said, “In no way, shape or form can I believe that good will come out of this tragedy. I can’t and I won’t accept it. But what I have to take with me is that light that I have found from all of you. You have given me a lens into my family’s lives that I didn’t have and that is a gift for which I am forever grateful. I am so proud to be Chris’ wife. I love him with everything that I have. I am so proud to be Bradley’s mom. He was one of the kindest spirits to ever walk the face of this earth. And I am so proud to be Adelaide’s mom. Her heart was pure as gold. And I am so proud to be Joey’s mom. He was innocent and happy and he had the biggest dreams of all of us.”
It was in the early morning hours of Sept. 4 when her four family members were shot and killed by a suspect known as Mitchell Lapa, a 48-year-old Winnipeg resident. The suspect was believed to be a relative of the family who was an “uninvited person” at their Oshawa home. Police said the suspect died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound. Besides, Traynor was wounded in the shooting, but her eldest son Sam was at school. Traynor termed her husband as a “social and adventurous” person who loved to make her laugh.
Also, Adelaide was described as a beautiful and smart girl who loved her life. She joked that the family gauged Bradley’s mood by deciphering his signature “groans,” while he always had a smile on his face, he had a groan for everything. She added that they would compile and publish Bradley’s groan manual for the people in his life. She also said Bradley was kind, honest, and loving, and one only needed to look at his face and the way he was interacting with anyone to see that.
She said her son Joey had an “infectious laugh” that made “people want to pick him up and make him laugh even more.”
Traynor said, “The happiness they brought us is greater than any evil.” She also noted that they had been in dark places, devastating places, places of loss, and even happiness. Through all the thoughts and emotions running through her, she realized that the light that had shone on their family in the last week and a half far outweighs the shadows she had felt.
She asked people to honor her late family by doing the things they loved to do. For instance, she said there should be many NBA 2K21 games and stack teams with the best players ever and think of Joey.
On the other hand, Sam Traynor said the death of his father, brothers, and sister has made him truly understand the effect they had on those around them. He said he heard the quote, “I don’t know what’s more powerful, the shock of what happened or the pain of what never will.” He first thought that nothing could be worse than the shock, but then the pain set in.
Moreover, he said he had been sure of one thing; the happiness they brought to them was greater than any evil. He said it was something he would cherish for the rest of his life.